I Am The Writer.

Date a girl who writes.

Date a girl who may never wear completely clean clothes, because of coffee stains and ink spills. She'll have a neat closet space though, with almost no clothes. Because she's always wearing the same thing. And her laptop is never boring, because there are so many words, so many words that she's cluttered amidst the space. Tabs open filled with obscure and popular music, but you'll come to realize she has the best taste in music of anyone you've ever known. Laugh it off when she tells you she forgot to clean her room, and that her clothes are lost among the binders so it'll take her longer to get ready, that her shoes are hidden under the mountain of broken Bic pens and the refurbished laptop she's saved ever since she was twelve. 

Kiss her under the lamppost, when it's raining. Tell her your definition of love.

Find a girl who writes. You'll know she has a sense of humor, a sense of empathy and kindness, and that she will dream up worlds, universes for you. 
She's the one with the faintest of shadows underneath her eyelids, the one who smells like coffee and Coca-Cola and Lavender. You see that girl hunched over a notebook? That's the writer. With her fingers occasionally smudged in charcoal, with ink that will travel onto your hands when you interlock your fingers with hers. She will never stop, churning out adventures. She'll see the real beauty in darkness and light, fear and love. That's the writer. She can never resist filling a blank page with words, whatever the color of the page is. 

She's the girl reading while waiting for her coffee and pancakes. She's the quiet girl with her music turned up loud (or impossibly quiet). Separating the two of you by an ocean of crescendos and decrescendos as she's thinking of the perfect words. If you take a peak at her cup, the coffee is already cold. She's already forgotten it. 

Use a pickup line with her if she doesn't look too busy. 

If she raises her head, offer to buy her another cup of coffee. She'll repay you with stories. If she closes her laptop, give her your opinion on how the world works. Tell her your stories and dreams, and all your deepest wishes. Ask her how her next masterpiece is coming along. 

It is hard to date a girl who writes. But be patient with her. Give her books for her birthday, pretty notebooks for Christmas, and for anniversaries, the perfect bath spa to inspire her. Don't forget binders. Lots and lots of binders. Give her the gift of words, for writers are talkative people, and they are verbose in their thanks. Let her know that you're behind her, every step of the way. For the lines between fiction and reality are really fluid.

She'll give you a chance. 

Don't lie to her. She'll understand the syntax behind your words. She'll be disappointed by your lies, but a girl who writes will understand. She'll understand that even the greatest of heroes fail, and that happy endings take time, both in fiction and in reality. She's realistic. A girl who writes isn't impatient; she will understand your flaws. She will cherish them, because a girl who writes will understand plot. She'll understand that endings happen for better or for worse. 

A girl who writes will not expect perfection from you. Her narratives are rich, her characters are multifaceted because of interesting flaws. She'll understand that a good book does not have perfect characters; villains and tragic flaws are the salt of books. She'll understand trouble, because it spices up her stories. So no matter how hard it is, her parents will like you eventually. No author wants an invincible hero; the girl who writes will understand that you are only human. 

Be her compatriot, be her darling, her love, her dream, her world.

If you find a girl who writes, keep her close. If you find her at two A.M., typing furiously, the neon gaze of light illuminating her narrowed forehead. You'll admire her, the way she focused will put you in awe. So put a blanket gently on her so that she does not catch a chill. Make her a pot of hot coco, and sit with her. You may lose her to her world for a few moments, but she will come back to you. She will always come back to you. You will believe in her every single time, the two of you illuminated only by the computer screen, but invincible in the darkness.

She is your protector. When you are afraid of the dark, she will guide you, her words turning into lanterns, turning into lights and stars and candles that will guide you through your darkest times. She'll be the one to save you. She'll whisk you away with her charm, and you will be smitten with her. She's mischievous, frisky, yet she's quiet when she has a lot on her mind. But you know her poems will be beautiful to come from it. When she cries, hold her, and tell her that it will be alright.

You will propose to her. Maybe on a boat in the ocean, maybe in a little cottage in the Appalachian Mountains. Maybe in New York city. Maybe Chicago. Baltimore. Maybe outside her publishers office. Or the spot of your first date, just to make it more meaningful. Because she's radiant, wherever she goes. Maybe even outside the cinema where the two of you kissed in the rain. She'll say it's overused and cliche, but the glint in her eyes will tell you that she appreciates it all the same.

You will smile hard as she talks a mile a second, and your heart will skip a beat when she holds your hand and she will write stories of your lives together. She'll hold you close and whisper secrets in your ears. She's lovely, remember that. She's self made and she's brilliant. Her names for children might be terrible, but you'll be okay with that. A girl who writes will be able to love the life you've created together, and find passion in the smallest things. And that's what matters to you.

Because that's the best part about a girl who writes. She has imagination and courage, but she's able to love more than you imagined possible, and it will be enough. She'll save you in the oceans of her dreams, she'll be your shooting star, and your 11:11. She'll be your firebird and your knight, and she'll become your world. In the curve of her smile, in the hazel of her eye, the dimples on her face. The words that are pouring out of her, a torrent, a wave, a crescendo - so many sensations that you will be left breathless by a girl who writes.

Maybe she's not the best a grammar, but that is okay.

Date a girl who writes because you deserve it. She's witty, she's empathetic, enigmatic at times and she's lovely. She's got the most colorful life. She may be living in London, England... or a small studio apartment in Utah. Date a girl who writes because a girl who writes, reads.

A girl who writes will understand reality. She'll be infuriating at times, and maybe sometimes you will hate her. Sometimes she will hate you too. But a girl who writes understands human nature, and she will understand that you are weak. She will not leave on a midnight train the first moment that things go sour. She will understand that real life isn't like a story, because while she works on stories, she lives in reality. 

Date a girl who writes.

Because I am the writer, and I will love you for all of yourself. 

I am the girl who writes.

And I promise you, 

There is nothing better than a girl who writes.